Father’s Day isn’t just for buying the proverbial tie and calling it a day. It honors fathers– and men who have filled the shoes of a father–to help change a child’s life for the better. Studies today affirm that an involved dad plays a vital role in the general health and well-being of children. Child welfare reports have found that an active and nurturing style of fathering is associated with “better verbal skills, intellectual functioning, and academic achievement among adolescents.”
Civil War veteran William Jackson Smart raised his six children as a single parent. After hearing a Mother’s Day sermon in 1909, Smart’s daughter, Sonora Smart Dodd, told her pastor that fathers should have a similar holiday honoring them.She got the ball rolling, but it wasn’t until 1972 that the third Sunday in June was officially declared a national holiday for fathers by President Nixon.
The following is an interview with my friend, Ben Gladden, who has often contributed to this site as a guest blogger. Ben has spent the last three years as a stay-at-home dad for his three kids, while his wife works full-time as a lawyer. I wanted to know how he keeps it all together, including taking care of himself. The driving force for his parenting? Spiritual principles he’s learned from the Bible and his practice of Christian Science. Continue reading →
Today’s guest blog is written by Benjamin Gladden, husband and father of three, who’s currently logging lots of hours in the “What makes for a good marriage and parent” department. He writes from his home in Framingham, Massachusetts.
About three years ago I got laid off from a job that I absolutely loved. I could have sat in that chair doing that work for the rest of my life and been very happy.
It hadn’t been easy managing the care of three children while my wife and I both worked full-time, but I really loved the work. It was completely fulfilling.
But then I got laid off.
The severance package I received included a class on resume writing, job interviews, etc. The resume tips were useful, but the most helpful part of the class was a little flier in our folders that discussed the emotional state of the person who just lost their job.
This little sheet talked about the need to take care of yourself emotionally and spiritually. But it also stressed the importance of taking care of your relationships–like your marriage. Continue reading →
Who knew that 20 minutes of kicking the soccer ball around with mom would produce that much happiness for my fifth-grader? No more complaining that this was the most boring, worst day ever and there was “never anything to do.” No more frustration on my part either.
I’ve learned that being an uber-busy, multitasking, working mom sends my kids one strong message. My most prized asset? Time. So when I prayed about how to push through the negative frustration that sometimes bubbles up in our home, the answer I got was to give them my time. Not one eye on them and the other on my iPhone, the dinner, or my laptop, but totally focused one-on-one interaction. Continue reading →